What to look for when investing in a Life Coach.
When we get a university, associate degree or a coaching certification, it means we have done the book work. The degree or certification does not mean we will become an expert or even very good in the practical application of this material.
It is up to us, then, to do our own due diligence in finding a life coach that is expert, has great results, and with whom we resonate. Just because someone is expert, does not mean they resonate with you. And a poor coach could actually resonate with you as well.
1. The expert coach is a lifelong learner.
Coaches are part of the newly formed ”Experts Industry.” Until late 2011, the coaching industry operated to the best of my knowledge, with no official code of ethics. Without agreed upon boundaries and parameters in doing business, regardless of the field, some coaches will be honest and some will not. I look forward to this ‘industry association’ keeping coaching a ‘clean’ business.
2. The expert coach is a good listener.
An expert coach has done a tremendous amount of inner work with their own coach. Shutting down personal inner chatter is required to really listen to the client. This coach will repeat back to the client precisely what they heard, making absolutely sure the client is understood.
3. The expert coach is deeply curious.
The coach client relationship is unique and transparent than any other relationship between humans. As a result of item 2 above, standing the client’s world, a coach is the client’s biggest cheerleader. The expert coach sees the client’s greatness and infinite potential and knows that we each have these qualities buried within our beliefs as to our abilities.
4. The expert coach can ‘set aside’ their own point of view.
It really takes expertise to step into the client’s world and see them, and only them. A coach who judges the client and is unpracticed at pure listening, cannot be your biggest proponent.
5. The expert coach – has their own coach.
Even the expert coach has ‘blind spots’ — that prevent us from putting aside our own point of view and be the ‘observer.’ Being coached and growing as a coach is just as important as being a coach for someone else. The coach must learn and grow even faster than their clients.
6. The expert coach looks for what is missing in the client’s thinking.
The expert coach, with pure listening, sees through the blind spots and the things the client does not see. Once determined, the expert coach will begin a dialogue that will have the client ‘see’ their blind spots for themselves.
7. The expert coach asks questions 98% of the time.
The expert coach knows through their own training that clients already have all the answers within them. And because the coach can ‘see’ what’s missing in their client’s thinking or thought process that would make a difference for them on-the-spot, it’s a challenge to just not ‘tell’ them what appears obvious. Asking questions is a skill. It’s easy to ‘tell’ someone what they can do. Do you, the client, want to learn to fish, so you can eat for a lifetime? Or would you prefer finding someone every day to do your fishing for you?
©Leslie Flowers 2012: Hiring a Life Coach Guidelines
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